Caregivers’ Blues


I’ve been trying to figure out how to review this book. I definitely get that it’s black humor, and I didn’t LOL when I was reading it. But I also didn’t STOP reading until it was over. I can totally see someone who is caregiving in almost complete isolation reacting to these situations the way Jeanne does. Even though it does feel like she’s whining repetitively in places, I realize that she has no respite from her mother and lives most of her days with no one to talk to other than her mother, and Velma is no longer capable of hearing her and responding the way Jeanne wishes she would–as her mother.

“Well, someone wise— I forget who, but it wasn’t Tolkien— someone once said that a hero is simply a person who does something important for another person who is unable to do it for himself. I wish I could remember who said that, because it’s so basic a definition, so easy to grasp.”

I Harper, M.A.. The Worst Day Of My Life, So Far (p. 200). booksBnimble. Kindle Edition.

I sent the author a message to try to determine who said this quote what his/her precise wording was. I feel that this definition of a hero or heroine says something important about the process of caregiving and the people who do it, whether they do it willingly or out of obligation. I wish they would all know that they are heroes or heroines when people who don’t understand call them martyrs and “overdramatic.”People don’t line up to help the caregivers do what they know needs needs to be done–they line up to share what the caregivers are doing “wrong.” It doesn’t help the person with Alzheimer’s, and it doesn’t help the caregiver.



About lana1967

I'm a Southern girl at heart who wants to build a community of people who believe they can change the world with words like "love" and "freedom" when they become more than words, but actions in our work and our daily lives.
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